1 Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. 2 For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body. 3 If we put bits into the mouths of horses so that they obey us, we guide their whole bodies as well. 4 Look at the ships also: though they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are guided by a very small rudder wherever the will of the pilot directs. 5 So also the tongue is a small member, yet it boasts of great things.
–James 3:1-5 (ESV)

This same passage also talks about an aspect of self control that involves a wee body part, the tongue. Like many of us, I suppose, my wagging tongue sometimes gets me in trouble. This little rudder can steer me in ways I I would rather not go.

Since staying mute doesn’t seem a realistic option, I need to work harder at considering what I say and how I say it, recognizing that some things are better left unsaid to avoid hurting others.